Sex Ed, Legislation, Khan Academy, &fc.

Some people want to ban discussion of sex in school, including use of contraception, homosexuality, dinosaurs, etc.  The argument is that morals are taught at home.  School should be where you learn math and writing, not where you learn what math and writing can do.

I sort of get it. Parents, right? Parents do that stuff. In some ways it would be nice if you could go to school and just download information into your brain, and come home to get your dose of culture.  It’d be like that scene in The Matrix where he learns Kung Fu, except really boring, takes a decade instead of 5 minutes, and teaches you to submit to the machine.

Obvi: it’s too simplistic.  If you send your kid to spend 40 hours a week with a group of adults that aren’t you, your kid is going to pick up some values from those adults.  It would be cool if you had total control over another person’s morals, but if you want our society to help you out by teaching your kids you’re going to have to face the fact that some of society is going to spill on them.

Trust teachers or don’t. Talk to them about what you want and see if they’ll give it to you. You can’t legislate this, ffs – don’t pretend you can abstract our service away from our humanity.

If you don’t want them to learn about differing viewpoints, keep your kids home in front of Khan Academy.  Be careful, though: even recordings of other adults can transmit infectious opinions.

4 thoughts on “Sex Ed, Legislation, Khan Academy, &fc.

  1. Paul Salomon

    Nice post. The departmental, info-dump mentality about schools just kills me. I couldn’t work at a school like that.

    The truth is, you can only control the will and thoughts of children so long. Children grow, parents die, and things always change.

    The world is FULL of differing opinions, wrong ideas, and stupid people. You can only try so long to raise a kid apart from that.

    If instead school is the place where students are brought face to face with the real controversies of the world and allowed to grapple with them, free from judgement and the need for “right” answers, then they can grow up synthesizing a coherent world view.

    I see my job as intellectual human development. It’s foolish to think kids could spend their full time at school and not be impacted by its culture.

    Worse yet, if you want your kids to soak up the culture of following and submission, then I am the wrong teacher for you.

    Please leave.

    Sorry for the rant. Thanks for the post.

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  2. Shirley A Burns

    Agreed, in general… but know that it is a mistaken stereotype that families homeschool so as to “shelter” their children from being “infected” by the popular culture and “differing” viewpoints.

    Obviously there are some who do, just as there are families who abandon complete parenting responsibility just “dump” their children into a classroom and expect the group of adults there to deal with everything.

    An intelligent parent, whether of the homeschool variety or otherwise, embraces the opportunity to discuss varying points of view and values with the child. One has to take advantage of “teachable moments” whenever they arise. Um, that’s our job.

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    1. Riley Lark Post author

      Oh, yeah. This is not meant as a knock against home school at all. It’s about trusting the people your kids are spending time with.

      Thanks for the comments, Paul & Shirley!

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      1. Shirley A Burns

        I do think it’s a valid question for all parents [perhaps *especially* homeschoolers ;-) ] to ask themselves from time… am I comfortable/confident/ with my child’s teachers/educational environment? If not, why not, and what am I willing to do about it? Complaining is not an option.

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